Let’s talk about the false sense of entitlement that some subs have (Basic Blog #42)

Good morning, yes, Goddess was up early this morning and decided to grace you all with another Blog. It’s been so long since I wrote one of My “Basic Blogs” and this topic is perfect for such a subject. We are all more than aware that the community has changed a lot in the last couple years, and unfortunatley it all hasn’t been for the good. So today I am writing a quick Blog and refresher course on submissive entitlement, and why you shouldn’t have any. There is a thing called power exchange in a D/s relationship that many of you have forgot about exactly how that works… So let this be your wake up call, or for those you newly identifying/acknowledging that you’re subs, let this be a lesson to prevent you from going down the wrong path. Remember Goddess will always hold the power, not you. Confused? you shouldn’t be… But let’s get into the blog.

This blog is a friendly reminder or maybe not so friendly... Because the false sense of entitlement that many of you subs have these days is appalling but also hilarious at the same time. I don’t know if it’s because there have been so many “dommes” coming on the scene just looking to make cash, and maybe they are the ones who allow this ridiculous behavior ensue just so they can make a dollar… But this kind of behavior never has, and never will fly with Dommes like Myself and many other Dommes out there who truly respect the Craft and Lifestyle. So let’s stop you subbys from going down the wrong path, or let’s correct your course if you’ve already started going down it.

So… Here’s one thing you should always remember, a Goddess doesn't owe you anything (I’m not discussing paying for Pro-Domme sessions, I don’t offer those), like I've said many times, being in Goddess's Life is a Privilege and not a right. I lead a very busy life and I choose who I want to communicate with. I live a very stress free and amazing Life with no financial burdens. That being said, I only allow subs into My Life, who I feel are the right fit and those who actually know or want to learn how to please Me. I get off on control and actual power exchange, not this 2 dimensional scripted stuff. I am a Lifestyle Domme, I live a Life influenced by Femdom and all of it’s Principles. It’s not a job to Me, it’s not something I take off. I identify as a Dominant Female 24/7, 365 and love all things Femdom.

So what does this mean?

Well for one… I play when I want to play, when I'm in the Mood, and not the other way around. I really don’t care how horny you are, or how subby you are feeling. If I’m not feeling up to it, I won't play just to please you or to get $___ from you, I don't need it. I also won’t enjoy it. If I won’t enjoy it why would I put Myself through it? I am Human, all Dommes are Humans, We aren’t robots that turn Our emotions on and off when you “need” something from us. We don’t solely exist for you or your pleasure. That’s not how this works. It’s actually the other way around. We have lives, and the majority of Our Lives don’t concern you. you are not entitled to anything, we share what We want to share and will always do what We want to do. I Personally, will always put Myself first and that will never change. I obviously love to play and toy with my submissives, but there is always a time and a place. I also enjoy teasing My subs, building up the anticipation, and making them earn everything. I don’t just give in to a subs wants. Gross. A sub must earn everything.

So… That leads Me to "Scripted Femdom." I’ve said this many times, one off sessions do nothing for Me, I don't care how much you offer. If you have been here for a while you are more than aware of this. Goddess won't allow Myself to suffer through a mechanical and meaningless session and I won't pretend to be entertained when I'm not. A random session might mean something to you, but it means nothing to Me. And that's what really matters. When I play with a sub I want to get deep inside their heads, I want to play with them, all of them. I want them to keep craving Goddess and My Control, I want them to keep coming back for more. No they don’t have to be one of My owned or under consideration subs. But they do have to be a sub that I have built somewhat of a connection and dynamic with. Anybody can “boss” a sub around in a session because the end goal is obvious. It’s not authentic to Me at all. Random sessions are always for the subs pleasure, and what they want, it isn’t about pleasing Goddess. I just don’t see how there is any real kind power exchange in that type of situation, it’s just a transaction, one with a set gameplan (sub wants Goddess to do x,y,z) , and those types of transactions do nothing for Me. I am not a Tool for your pleasure, actually it’s the other way around. subs are tools for a Goddess’s Pleasure. If interacting or playing with a sub isn’t going to make Me feel good, I won’t do it. Why? Because I don’t have to, I don’t owe you anything. Why would I want to do something that feels fake? There are plenty of dommes out there who are willing, but it’s not for Me.

Goddess does things that make Me feel good. Period.

Just because you "want" to serve Me, doesn't mean that I have allow it.

Lol. Get in line. Goddess get’s a ton of messages and sub applications through My Website and subscription based platforms daily. I don’t have time to respond to everyone, nor does every application or message I recieve appeal to Me. If I don’t respond consider your application or message consider it rejected. Give up or do better. It’s also possible that I just don’t see a place for you in My Life, or I am not seeking that specific type of sub at the time. It’s that simple.

As a Goddess I have the right to choose who comes into My Life. I am very selective about the subs that I choose. I protect My Energy, and if I feel like it’s not going to work you need to just accept that. Goddess desires connection, intelligent conversation, and a level of chemistry. I don’t need a dribbling, drooling moron 24/7, it’s exhausting. Nor will I always want to play and engage in kink 24/7. In between those times, if we talk there needs to be more than just pure kink. (This is in relation to owned subs, and under consideration subs, the ones that I communicate with daily. If your goal every time to approach is to get off, it will become evident and I will discard you.) Obviously, through those times, you will be still addressing Me as Queen or Goddess, that respect will always remain.

Remember, all D/s relationships no matter what the level of intensity, need to have a foundation, and that foundation can’t be built on nothing.

Just because you message Goddess, it doesn’t mean that I have to respond.

Once again, I don’t owe you anything. Goddess has the right to pick and choose who I want to respond to and interact with, if I receive a message that isn’t appealing, or if it seems self-serving, or vulgar or whatever, honestly I don’t even need a reason. I have the power to pick and choose who gets My Attention. If you want to earn My Attention, reading My Blogs is a great place to start. Goddess appreciates a well researched sub, a sub who has taken the time to learn about Goddess and what Goddess seeks. Not a sub who’s wiener gets hard because they like My Pictures, My Beautiful Face, Body, Voice, Eyes, or Blonde Hair, that’s all Physical, and yes, it’s nice, but it’s not a true representation of Who I am. When you approach your intital message gives Me an idea of you are… So when you do decide to approach make sure you do it the right way. (It is very apparent to Goddess when a sub just approaches without attempting to learn anything about Me, and the message is extremely self driven. It’s a huge turn off. For example “How would you control me Goddess?” What a dumb question, I don’t even know you! lol)

When it comes to subs that I have already been interacting with… Well some of you still aren’t that bright. you already accomplished what many subs have failed to do, you have gained My Attention. However, you should never get this confused with being entitled to My Attention or keeping My Attention 24/7. you can still easily lose it. I have a Life outside of you. It’s insane that I even have to say that. I am not always checking My Messages, sometimes I even fall asleep mid conversation. Shocking right? Goddess get’s tired and needs to sleep like a Human. I am not a pleasure dispenser, I also am not only your Domme. I have other subs, and other responsibilities to attend to. When you do have My Attention you should be grateful, and If I can’t respond immediately you shouldn’t throw a fit or spam messages. There is no bigger turn off than coming back to My inbox and seeing multiple messages making it look like a novel has been written. It’s too much. It’s even worse, when that novel consists mostly about you, your wants, your desires… Do you think Goddess has any interest reading a novel about you and your selfish wants? If you’re going to write a novel at least focus that novel on Goddess and My Pleasure. And if you actually expect Me to read that novel show some appreciation for My Time and Tribute. It really shouldn’t be that difficult. My Time is Valuable, and if you show that don’t respect It and are taking It for granted, I will get sick of you fast. My World doesn’t just revolve around you and it never will.

If you are hoping to gain My Attention, a Tribute notification is a great way to do so, but even then sometimes I am too busy. And remember a tribute is not a form of payment, a tribute does not buy My Time. It’s a token of appreciation. It’s a way to Worship and show how grateful you are for Me. Generally, Goddess is more inclined to respond when a sub shows appreciation or Worship. However, I am not inclined to respond when sub goes on and on about their wants, their kinks, their appendage, and completely fails to even consider Goddess’s Desires and Goddess’s Pleasure. Its’s insane that this even needs to be said. But unfortunately this is the state of the scene lately. (If you are still confused about the meaning of Tribute I have an older Blog available that will clear up the confusion about the differences between paying for a session, transactions and Tributes. The True Meaning of Tribute and Servitude. Clearing Up The Confusion.)

One thing you need to remember is, Goddess takes because I can, not because I need to. I don't "need" anything from you. I am more than Generous, I don't even charge a pay per message fee on My LF, because I do want to have conversations, I want to get deep inside subs heads, and find the right fit when adding subs to My Life. If you begin to take advantage of that, that privilege is revoked and I will start charging per message until you learn, or you will blocked. you hold no power in this situation. Whether you stay or go in My Life isn’t going to make or break Me. I don’t need you. I am a strong Independent Domme and Woman, I play with subs for My Enjoyment and Pleasure, so guess what? If you don’t provide those things, you won’t be in My Life. I get off on power exchange, control and feeling good. I am in the Driver’s Seat, and you are so lucky to be along for the ride if given the opportunity.

Everything Goddess does in Femdom is about control and power exchange, and you will never hold the power. Any tiny amount power or control that you entered this dynamic with, will be taken. I’ll take it all, little by little until you have nothing left. Goddess is what drives you. I control you, lead you and guide you. That’s the fun part. subs who try to control the narrative and the direction of our interactions will not be entertained. you should never talk about your wants unless you are asked to divulge them. your focus should always be on Goddess. your pleasure should be derived from Goddess’s Pleasure. When Goddess feels good, you feel good. A D/s relationship is supposed to be mutualistic. If you don’t know what that means look it up, or crawl through My older Blogs where I discuss it on a deeper level.

To make this as simple and basic as possible…. I am very particular about those I communicate with, if you don't add positive vibes and good energy to My Life, you won't be in it. I like to feel good. I feel good by playing with subs who understand their place and their Purpose. Not every sub will understand their Purpose initially, and that’s fine, thats what submissive training is for. But if a sub needs to constantly be corrected it will get to the point where it becomes draining and Goddess will no longer engage. That’s on the sub at that point. Goddess is very clear about My intentions and what I want and what I expect from My toys. So, I suggest if you are in My Life currently or if you are considering approaching Me, to go through My Blogs and learn everything you need to know. My Blogs are highly educational and a tool to train you to be a better person and sub. My Blogs also exist so I don’t have to repeat Myself 100000000000x, and it shows Me which subs put in the actual effort to be of use to Me.

Remember subbies you need Goddess, Goddess doesn’t need you. I have good boys, and a great Life. So if you want to come along for the ride and be a part of It, and if you actually want to stick around you better learn how things work fast.

Goddess is Irreplaceable, never forget that… you however can easily be replaced by someone who suits Me better.

Anyways, this ended up being way longer than I wanted it to be. lol

I'm going to start My Day.

Goddess Liv